Gemma Speig
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1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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And the only way you can tie your worth to internal things is if you do the work.
And as if you take those moments of being single, or not even being single, being alone, being scared, being unsure, and you show yourself you are capable of handling it yourself.
Again, if your self-esteem is deeply tied to being accepted and chosen, and you don't have that additional part of you that says...
it's okay, we'll be fine if we're not chosen because we'll have ourselves.
A breakup is like an emotional emergency.
It is like an emotional collapse.
It's like catastrophe.
And so sometimes your brain is going to look for the easiest solution to that.
And what is the easiest band-aid solution fix?
find somebody else.
Find somebody else who's going to quickly fill that hole right up, who's going to make you feel validated again, make you feel safe again, make you feel chosen again.
That is why we find ourselves in this pattern.
There's something else going on here though.
Something I would say is a little bit more positive and it comes down to the excitement and novelty we love when we fall in love with people, that we get addicted to when we meet new people.
So we're going to dive into that explanation and so much more after this short break.
Okay, so far we've talked about relationship hopping as something that is driven by fear, insecurity, avoidance, that kind of stuff.
There is another version of the story that is completely different.
Sometimes people relationship hop because falling in love feels incredible and that is the state that they want to be in forever.
Sometimes people are serial monogamists because they are chasing that very specific experience, the experience, the temporary and yet deeply addictive experience of falling in love.
Let's be real, like the early stages of any relationship are
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