Gemma Spike
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14,253 appearances
30 recordings
1 series
first heard Apr 2026
last heard yesterday
Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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We might just never know because at some point we stop thinking, you know, I'm doing this because I want to be loved, or I'm doing this because a parent or teacher.
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condition me or I'm doing this because I get praise and we just start thinking
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I'm doing this.
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I'm putting other people first because I'm generous and this is who I am and we're proud of this part of ourselves.
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Psychologists have a name for this.
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It's called self-concept integration.
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In the case of Good Girl Complex,
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behaviors like the ones we described that were once strategies for gaining approval become so woven into our our identity that to undo them would be to undo who we are.
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A woman who refuses to say no might not see that as people pleasing.
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She is just somebody who is
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A nice person.
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Somebody who anticipates the needs of others that just really thoughtful?
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The empathetic rather than being hyper vigilant.
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We don't want to pathologize these parts of who we are.
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In a 2026 study published this year, researchers surveyed 366 women using this newly developed Good Girl syndrome questionnaire.
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And they found that what we call good girl syndrome wasn't just one trait.
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So it's difficult to identify, but it's a a cluster of behaviors that is centered around conditional self worth.
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And only feeling valuable when you meet other people's expectations.
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Women who scored highly on this questionnaire also tended to be.
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A perfectionist, B self sacrificing, and
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