Gemma Spike

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14,836 appearances 31 recordings 1 series first heard Apr 2026 last heard 3d ago

Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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The Psychology of your 20s · 460. The psychology of 'good girl' syndrome · 21 Sep 2026 podcast

Two words, vicarious modeling. voice-verified

If you are not at this stage yet of being able to retire your former good girl self, if it feels safe to you. voice-verified

Best next thing you can do is to see examples of women voice-verified

who have retired their good girl self and the world has kept turning, if not gotten better for them. voice-verified

Vicarious modelling was first studied by probably one of the most famous men in psychology, voice-verified

If you've done a psychology course, you've heard his name, Albert Bondura. voice-verified

And he essentially realized that a lot of how we learn and change behavior is by watching. voice-verified

When we see someone do things that we wish we could do. voice-verified

Or that we wish we were capable of voice-verified

Our sense of possibility is voice-verified

even like neurologically and psychologically immediately expands. voice-verified

This is particularly important with Good Girl Syndrome or a Good Girl Complex because so much of it is built on these predictions about what is going to happen if I stop being good. voice-verified

And there is this expectation that if I'm not good, people won't like me, people won't be happy with me, I won't be happy, I'm gonna lose everything, I'm gonna be miserable. voice-verified

I'm gonna lose relationships opportunities. voice-verified

Maybe. voice-verified

But a role model gives your brain contradictory alternative evidence. voice-verified

You watch a woman say no without providing a full five-minute explanation, and you realize nothing happened. voice-verified

You watch a woman, be vocal. voice-verified

Disagree openly with people, and people still respect her. voice-verified

And maybe they don't and she just doesn't care. voice-verified

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