Gemma Spike

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15,259 appearances 32 recordings 1 series first heard Apr 2026 last heard yesterday

Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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The Psychology of your 20s · 460. The psychology of 'good girl' syndrome · 21 Sep 2026 podcast

Of course, gender socialization is critical here, especially with my children. voice-verified

I think we've explored that already. voice-verified

On a more psychological level, it also comes down to how we experience love and how girls experience love differently than boys. voice-verified

If we experience love, parental love, as something that was conditional and tied to being helpful, quiet, agreeable, high achieving. voice-verified

We pursue those parts of ourselves and we learn to shut down the parts of ourselves. voice-verified

that don't result in that feeling and don't result in love, which is the messy, angry, needy parts of us that voice-verified

you know, might bring about shame or a lack of affection. voice-verified

As a child, this works quite well as a strategy to get love. voice-verified

But as good girl syndrome and good girl traits become internalized, it can almost feel like this is who we've always been. voice-verified

And we confuse what is basically a peacemaking strategy with voice-verified

with our personality. voice-verified

And we start to think voice-verified

You know, it's actually not that bad to put others first, which is maybe correct. voice-verified

But then we think, well, maybe it's not that bad to be miserable so that other people can be happy. voice-verified

And then we start to think, maybe this is who I am. voice-verified

I'm a nice person. voice-verified

I am I give, I'm I'm giving and so why change this? voice-verified

Why change these parts of myself, even if they're kind of voice-verified

Hurt me. voice-verified

I think it's really important to say as well, this isn't always a choice. voice-verified

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