Gemma Spike
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15,259 appearances
32 recordings
1 series
first heard Apr 2026
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Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Good girl syndrome and fawning res fawning as a survival response are intrinsically linked.
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What's particularly interesting for me is something that I said before, which is that as we get older, it can become harder and harder to differentiate between which parts of our character are shaped by good girl syndrome.
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and this compulsive desire to be liked, and which parts of our of this uh uh is actually just
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Who we are?
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And is just a genuine part of our personality, it becomes indistinguishable.
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The truth is is that perhaps on some level, like I we might just never know.
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We might just never know because at some point we stop thinking, you know, I'm doing this because I want to be loved, or I'm doing this because a parent or teacher.
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condition me or I'm doing this because I get praise and we just start thinking
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I'm doing this.
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I'm putting other people first because I'm generous and this is who I am and we're proud of this part of ourselves.
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Psychologists have a name for this.
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It's called self-concept integration.
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In the case of Good Girl Complex,
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behaviors like the ones we described that were once strategies for gaining approval become so woven into our our identity that to undo them would be to undo who we are.
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A woman who refuses to say no might not see that as people pleasing.
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She is just somebody who is
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A nice person.
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Somebody who anticipates the needs of others that just really thoughtful?
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The empathetic rather than being hyper vigilant.
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We don't want to pathologize these parts of who we are.
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