Gorgi Coghlan

So it was after that relationship that I really sat down and thought, hang on a minute.

And the science that a part of my brain was like, there has to be a logical way of how this is going to work.

So I think then I...

Maybe I used boundaries then after being so hurt to feel safe.

And then other people kept coming into my life, even when I was in a great relationship, that the universe kept sending me people to test me.

And my greatest teachers are people that don't respect boundaries.

So it's hard to articulate it, but I think it's

It's just come from a place of conserving my energy, realizing that not everyone gets to receive my cup, and that's okay.

And I think, honestly, Lael, I think some of this is intergenerational trauma.

So my grandmother was the most amazing woman, Kath, and she had seven children, but she then took on an extra three when her sister died.

And then she then took on, I remember Henry, this wonderful intellectually disabled man that she took on.

So, you know, you've got this woman who just did everything for everyone and

And I'm sure I've inherited that trauma of that's what it is to be a mother.

And so it's taken me a long time to realize, well, no, no, no, that's not mine.

I don't need to carry that on.

I can put that basket down and say, thanks so much.

I'm not taking that and I'm certainly not passing that on to Molly.

And I do think that maybe that's one of the reasons, if I'm going to be, nothing's wasted.

Extremely philosophical and spiritual about only being able to have one child is part of that, oh, I can't get my head around it, was my grandmother had seven, then three, then one.

So...