Grace Alice O'Shea

If you right now hear that question.

And you kind of think, I kind of do it because I kind of should.

It's okay to be that honest because you actually have to start from that honest place.

If you've slipped into that place where you're kind of just having sex, the word obligation comes up a lot in my work, where you kind of feel because you kind of, again, it's kind of the done thing, should.

Yeah.

And you deserve more than that.

You know, sex should be, again, it doesn't have to be incredible every single time, but it should be a positive presence in your life, not something that you're stressing and worrying over all the time.

Yeah, I think so.

Because I think, you know... It makes us self-conscious.

Yeah.

As it is our relationship with our body or our inability to even take a compliment and be... I think our relationship... What I'm trying to ask is, is there ways on baby steps we can get to a place where...

It does.

And particularly as women, we are thought to tie our worth and our desirability to our appearance.

That is the messages we receive, you know, basically the hotter you are, kind of the better, you know.

And yeah, it's exhausting.

Like it's exhausting because whatever, there's the body image stuff and then there's the face stuff and the aging and it's just relentless.

It is exhausting.

So you kind of have to make a decision at some point that like to unsubscribe from a certain amount of it.

You just have to take the power back into your hands, I would say.

You know, try and detangle this idea that I have to look a certain way to experience pleasure and desire and all of those things.