Grace Beverley

We have inherited them.

And just because you have in your head, oh, I don't want to be single at 30.

Okay, so what you...

stick in a relationship that isn't good for you for 27, 28, 30, you get to 31, 32.

You've stuck with this person for five years purely because you didn't want to be single at 30.

And then if that was your biggest problem and now you're single at 32 or 35 or whatever, not saying that's a big problem.

But if that was your biggest fear and like you can't edge something over the line when it's not right.

And I think that that time spent like truly doubling down on like what's going to make your life a good life, like what's going to make it in line with the type of life you want to live, I think is so much better a way of spending our time.

what i will be in five years time because even when i think to the person i was five years ago or like in the bc times of before covid i've changed so much yeah no absolutely and i think you have to allow that evolution to happen as well because like this rigidity around what you expect of your life and your timeline and all of that it actually entirely prevents the ability to even adapt to new things that you might like and like to new lives that you might want to live and

And you have to stay open minded to that.

And the only way of staying open minded to that is like constantly checking in and like rejecting these other things that have been imposed on that.

I also loved the part in your book where you talked about like reclaiming the idea of a spinster.

Can you explain that a little bit for us for the podcast?

100% I'll live in a beautiful house by myself you had to make us scared of that so we would feel like we would need to settle for anything that wasn't good enough you had to make that vision so scary for us

And that timeline we talked about in terms of like getting a mortgage, getting into a relationship, having children, getting married, like whatever it might be.

How do you stop that from running your life?

Because obviously you kind of broke out of that.

And I think that so many people listening to this will feel...

Like their only option is to be worried about that timeline because if they're not worried about it, they're not doing anything about it.

And especially high achieving women and a lot of people who listen to this podcast will be like, well, I saw everything else out in my life in terms of like how I aim for this, that and the other.