Grace Beverley

Like surely I need to just make that work somehow, even if it's not right to tick off the timeline.

Like how do you actually get out of that running your life?

waiting for this I honestly think that all the time because I think that like I I can't sit here and say like oh I'm not worried about a timeline when I've done certain things on a timeline that might have been the things aimed for I absolutely had a timeline and I'm very I feel very lucky that I coincidentally seem to meet the right person on that timeline at the same time I wish I could go back and like shake myself the myself that was like getting out of a relationship and completely freaking out even though I would

never have married that well I should never have married that person like as in they never would have been right for me we never would have built the life we wanted together I would have compromised every single thing about the life I want just to be picked and like I look back and I'm like I think that there would have been so much space for me just to be able to have like a great time with my friends building female friendships like something I believe so strongly in and have put so much time and effort into yeah

Particularly like beyond marriage, which I think is a whole other question, because I think that some people seem almost surprised that I'm like still taking girls trips or still going this place or still doing this because I'm married and pregnant and like all of those things.

And it's like, ah, but I do just think that, like, I wish I could just go back and shake myself and be like, worrying about it is not going to speed it up, first of all.

So if that's what you're concerned about.

And you're just excited to meet someone on a girls trip.

Exactly.

Just actually spend the time enjoying your life and building a life that makes you happy.

If someone fits in that, fantastic.

But it's more likely you're going to find the right person if they fit into your actual dream life rather than you building your dream life around the person that you happen to meet at the right time.

Yeah, no, I absolutely agree with that.

And I'd like to come to speak a little bit too about confidence because I feel like I think a lot about the fact that...

little girls seem to be really confident and there is a point at which that seems to just be sucked out of us like if you are going to make it or you're going to get somewhere or whatever like your confidence has to be shrunk because I think we talk about like particularly women in their 20s it's like imposter syndrome and needing to build up confidence and all of that I look at like young girls and I'm like

No, you're so confident.

You know who you are.

Like, you're so excited about these things.

Where do you think that shift happens?

I loved your kind of take in the book about body confidence and everything.