Grace

But even like the timing of when we had my daughter, so we got married, I mentioned when I was 22, I still had a couple of years left in my doctorate program.

We actually unexpectedly got pregnant pretty soon after we got married.

So I had my daughter like in the middle of a pretty rigorous doctorate program and my mom was sick.

Like, telling her that I was pregnant, like, you would have thought I was a teen mom, like, having to tell my parents that I was pregnant because she did not take the news well.

She was like, see, I told you so.

You're not going to finish your doctorate program.

Like, you just got married, and now you're going to have babies, and now you're not going to have a good job, and you're going to be dependent on your husband for the rest of your life, and you're going to have a toxic marriage like I did.

Yeah.

And I did prove her wrong.

I finished my doctorate program and did it with a newborn.

So, but yeah, she just, every single part, like us getting married, us having kids when we did, how he parents, every single thing she just nitpicks.

And now whenever she comes around to parents,

you know, babysit and be with our kids.

My husband pretty much avoids her because he is aware of the situation.

I've told him everything she said and he's just like very avoidant.

So he will try to busy himself with other things.

And then she takes offense to that.

Like he's ignoring her.

She comes about once a month, I'd say, which is why I need help because she's in our life enough that, you know, this comes up a lot.

And I do love my mom.