Chapter 1: How can I cope with my husband kissing other women for work?
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Chapter 2: What advice is given for navigating a love triangle?
I'm Kaylee, I'm 34, and I'm trying to figure out how to navigate my husband kissing other women for work.
Okay. I'm assuming he's an actor?
Yes. Okay.
Correct. I guess just tell me about the relationship.
So we've been together nine years, married for five. He got into this space last year. So when we met, he always wanted to pursue acting. He was a professional model. That was his bread and butter. So that was always his big dream was to just do movies. So finally, at this point in our marriage, like I said last year, he finally got into it and made a break.
Yeah, I mean, that's kind of where we're at right now.
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Chapter 3: How should I handle my mother trying to influence my marriage?
I think a lot of people listening have imagined how someone like you does it. Right. In fact, you know, now and I were the new the new Jacob Elordi and Margo.
I heard you guys on the podcast talking about it. What, like two days ago? I was like, oh, my gosh, the timing of that.
Yeah. Or just like, how do they do it? You know, it's like they really. Yeah. So you heard that episode.
It's just like, yeah, I was like kind of giggling to myself listening to it.
You know, because you really got to have some thick skin, you know, not so much even in the movies. But when they promote these movies and seem to really lean into the onscreen chemistry that, you know, they want the audience to have and things like that. And it must be very, very difficult.
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Chapter 4: What are common feelings when a partner is intimate with others in acting?
So I guess I'm curious, like, you know, your relationship started when he was a model and wasn't acting. You were aware of his dreams. So that's all valid. Now he's got this break. And I imagine... you know, correct me if I'm wrong, but like at first it probably thought like as something you might not have to worry about.
Not that you didn't believe in your husband, but it's like, as you know, it's like, it's a tough business to break into and et cetera, et cetera. And I'm assuming like his first role, like required him to kiss someone.
Yeah. And he actually, for modeling, he's done, he's done kissing before for like, like jewelry brands, you know, for commercials and stuff. So that was like a first little baby hurdle. I was like, okay, that's a little weird, but okay. You know, I'd rather have you get the job than not. And then it progressed.
It kind of like fast forwarded pretty quickly into the role that like the kind of niche that he's in, it's, it's sexualized, you know?
Chapter 5: How can I establish boundaries with my spouse in a unique work situation?
So it's not like a PG type situation.
Yeah.
without giving too much away. Like, what do you mean?
I'm trying to like dance around it. Like the whole concept, it's very guy saves girl.
I mean, is this being cast in roles where he's like a love interest, basically?
Yeah, like, he's always the lead in these types of roles. It's always the guy, the girl.
Yeah.
You know, there's always an intimate scene, plus more, like, in everyone, essentially. Like, he's not getting, like, an army role, you know?
Sure. What conversations have you guys had around this? I mean, because at the other days, it's going to come down to how you guys communicate, you know?
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Chapter 6: What strategies can help maintain communication in a relationship?
Right. We've talked, we've had, I can't tell you how many conversations about it. So the communication's there.
Okay.
And he tries to explain, like, the intricacies of it. He's like, it's really just like a smoke and mirrors thing. And when I see it, obviously it doesn't feel that way. But to me, it feels like, like that sacredness that we had getting married kind of got stolen from me in a sense.
Like, I know he was pursuing acting, but you don't really, your mind can't kind of grasp like, oh, my husband's body isn't just for me. It's going to be used with another woman.
Yeah. No, I get it. How does he describe it to you?
He's described it as obviously being more uncomfortable than anything.
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Chapter 7: How do I address family dynamics affecting my marriage?
He's like, everybody's uncomfortable doing it. You know, there's a whole crew around us. He's like, you kind of prefer it to be like before lunch.
Yeah.
You know, so he's like he's giving me some like light insight into it, which I appreciate.
I did some acting and I and I had a kissing scene with a woman. It was super awkward. You know, it was it was not in any way. And I was single at the time.
Which makes it a little easier, right?
Well, I guess that was kind of my point. Not really. I mean, you know, I guess, you know, I only say I was single because I guess there's a world in which I guess if I felt something and I wanted to pursue something, I guess being single, I... I could suppose, but I was very concerned about being professional. Right.
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Chapter 8: What steps can I take to ensure my marriage stays strong despite external pressures?
And, and I didn't want to look like I was enjoying it, you know, like I didn't, I was very self-conscious about it. And again, it was my scene. Wasn't like, it was more of a comedy show. So that wasn't like some big, like sex scene. It wasn't sensual. And I didn't have to like lean in that way. So a little different, but I just,
I do remember, obviously because my first time doing it, just how weird it was and how unromantic it was and how it felt like licking an elbow.
Yeah, that's a good explanation. I mean, that sounds good. That feels good to hear.
But as you know, there have been people who have fallen for each other on set and things like that. Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Brad and Anjali.
They're like the ultimate nightmare. Yeah.
Right. You know, it's like I love Jennifer Aniston, you know, and things like that. Yeah. I mean, so like it's you know, I mean, I feel like I I don't know how much help I'm being here or how much help I can be other than like I'm curious, like, would this be have you guys ever done couples therapy?
We did before we got married, but no, not consistently.
I think this could be something where... Because these conversations are very hard to navigate. And I think it sounds like you both have acknowledged... Like, this is a weird situation. And you're juggling this like, okay, well, I don't want to stop my husband from pursuing his dreams. And I want to be happy for him at the same time also feeling this weird insecurity that's normal.
And how do I bring it up without... making him feel like he's doing something wrong or, you know, it's just like, you know, added pressure. And, you know, is he is he going to grow to resent me and things like that? And then maybe he's just not sure how to talk about it because he doesn't want to trigger you or.
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