Grace

You know, we've had our issues, but her hatred towards my husband has just become something that

It's just a big thing in our relationship.

And it's hard for me to move past this because I see her very differently now.

She can't love the person that I love the most in life.

And it's hard.

So I'd say when I was pregnant with our second, I had to set a boundary with her that she would not be coming to stay with us for a full week like she did after our first was born to help take care of the newborn with us because of what happened last time.

And obviously, she took offense to that.

And I kind of explained why I was setting that boundary and what happened last time.

And, you know, when I postpartum, I'm already in a pretty fragile state.

So her being there and

her husband or my husband and her mixing, I just knew that was not going to be a good thing.

So I told her, you can come and meet the baby.

We want you to meet the baby, but I really don't want you lingering around.

And yeah, when I explained to her why I was setting that boundary and what happened last time, her response is never to apologize.

It's always, well, I didn't mean it like that, or you took that the wrong way, or you misunderstood how I meant that.

It's never an apology.

So

it's really hard for me to forgive her when she has that, that way of speaking and never really pointing up to what she did and apologizing.

Right.

Yeah.