Gretchen Rubin

But one of them is don't expect to be motivated by motivation. And this is something I believe very profoundly. In my observation, people are not motivated by motivation. Being highly motivated does not at all correlate with whether somebody does something. So don't expect to be motivated by motivation.

Yes, because I think a lot of times people make the mistake of thinking like, well, I'm a perfectionist, and so what you're asking me to do is to lower my standards. And so I refuse to lower my standards, maybe, or maybe I do lower my standards, but it doesn't seem to help. That's because perfectionism is about anxiety. And so you have to address the anxiety, not the standards.

Yes, because I think a lot of times people make the mistake of thinking like, well, I'm a perfectionist, and so what you're asking me to do is to lower my standards. And so I refuse to lower my standards, maybe, or maybe I do lower my standards, but it doesn't seem to help. That's because perfectionism is about anxiety. And so you have to address the anxiety, not the standards.

Yes, because I think a lot of times people make the mistake of thinking like, well, I'm a perfectionist, and so what you're asking me to do is to lower my standards. And so I refuse to lower my standards, maybe, or maybe I do lower my standards, but it doesn't seem to help. That's because perfectionism is about anxiety. And so you have to address the anxiety, not the standards.

Because some people have extremely high standards, but they don't have the anxiety, and so then they don't feel, they don't have that feeling of, oh, I'm a perfectionist. They just think, I'm just doing my best.

Because some people have extremely high standards, but they don't have the anxiety, and so then they don't feel, they don't have that feeling of, oh, I'm a perfectionist. They just think, I'm just doing my best.

Because some people have extremely high standards, but they don't have the anxiety, and so then they don't feel, they don't have that feeling of, oh, I'm a perfectionist. They just think, I'm just doing my best.

Okay, Mike, this took me so long to understand. This was something that I realized that I did all the time. I delayed making a decision by pretending that I needed more information or I needed to consult with somebody. It was really just a form of procrastination. I didn't need more time. I just needed to make up my mind.

Okay, Mike, this took me so long to understand. This was something that I realized that I did all the time. I delayed making a decision by pretending that I needed more information or I needed to consult with somebody. It was really just a form of procrastination. I didn't need more time. I just needed to make up my mind.

Okay, Mike, this took me so long to understand. This was something that I realized that I did all the time. I delayed making a decision by pretending that I needed more information or I needed to consult with somebody. It was really just a form of procrastination. I didn't need more time. I just needed to make up my mind.

Or I just needed to just deal with the facts that I knew, which I had perfectly satisfactory amount of information. I just was hoping that somebody else would do the hard work of deciding. Or I just wanted to put it off. And yeah, you're right. Probably sometimes I kind of in my heart already knew what I wanted to pick.

Or I just needed to just deal with the facts that I knew, which I had perfectly satisfactory amount of information. I just was hoping that somebody else would do the hard work of deciding. Or I just wanted to put it off. And yeah, you're right. Probably sometimes I kind of in my heart already knew what I wanted to pick.

Or I just needed to just deal with the facts that I knew, which I had perfectly satisfactory amount of information. I just was hoping that somebody else would do the hard work of deciding. Or I just wanted to put it off. And yeah, you're right. Probably sometimes I kind of in my heart already knew what I wanted to pick.

But sometimes you just you just you're just sort of hoping that somebody deciding is hard. Deciding is hard work. We get a lot of decision fatigue. And sometimes we're trying to I realize that a lot of my bad habits are me trying to foist off decision making on other people. Like I realized I had a bad habit of saying to my husband, like, well, what time do you think I should leave for the airport?

But sometimes you just you just you're just sort of hoping that somebody deciding is hard. Deciding is hard work. We get a lot of decision fatigue. And sometimes we're trying to I realize that a lot of my bad habits are me trying to foist off decision making on other people. Like I realized I had a bad habit of saying to my husband, like, well, what time do you think I should leave for the airport?

But sometimes you just you just you're just sort of hoping that somebody deciding is hard. Deciding is hard work. We get a lot of decision fatigue. And sometimes we're trying to I realize that a lot of my bad habits are me trying to foist off decision making on other people. Like I realized I had a bad habit of saying to my husband, like, well, what time do you think I should leave for the airport?

I live in New York City. It's a hassle to figure out what time you leave for the airport because there's so many factors. What time of day is it? How is the traffic? Which airport are you going to? It's a multi-factor decision-making thing. I just wanted him to tell me. But why is that his problem? That is not his problem. He has no more information than I do.

I live in New York City. It's a hassle to figure out what time you leave for the airport because there's so many factors. What time of day is it? How is the traffic? Which airport are you going to? It's a multi-factor decision-making thing. I just wanted him to tell me. But why is that his problem? That is not his problem. He has no more information than I do.

I live in New York City. It's a hassle to figure out what time you leave for the airport because there's so many factors. What time of day is it? How is the traffic? Which airport are you going to? It's a multi-factor decision-making thing. I just wanted him to tell me. But why is that his problem? That is not his problem. He has no more information than I do.

I'd be like, I'll just wait and see what he thinks. No, I don't need more time. I just need to make a decision and I don't need to consult with somebody else. Or like, you know, make them do that work. That's for me to do. I'm the one going to the airport. Just deal with it, you know.