Guy Winch

We're just, you know, like numbing out.

Yes, there's always this constitutional difference between, you know, some people do tend to be able to manage stress in a constitutional way more effectively than others, and some people are able to hold on to these aspects of their lives.

But for anyone, you know, if...

even somebody who's doing that and who's doing that well, if the next day they go into work and someone says to them, oh, you know, the company just got bought and there might be layoffs and you might be losing your job, they're going to have a hard time going home and getting to the gym because they're going to be highly worried

and preoccupied and that might go on for a while you know like you have a great show and it's a very very successful show and congratulations on it if tomorrow and i don't think this is happening and and hopefully not but if tomorrow somebody comes and says we found a great new host for the show it's an ai you know like you're not going to have the most restful evening that evening right no one would and and those are the pressures that so many people

are dealing with these uncertainties, these insecurities, these toxic workplaces, these difficult coworkers, the demands of the job that keep growing and growing and growing.

Like most people feel like I have more and more work to do and less and less time to get it done.

We have to process that at some point.

And we tend to be able to do that when we get home.

And that interferes with our ability to live our lives.

And so, yes, some people can get through it unscathed, but no one can get through it unscathed always.

And at some point of pressure, everyone will start to revert to these less effective ways of thinking and coping.

Well, the answer is yes.

First of all, be aware of it.

But the answer is, too, that you actually have to be much more intentional and deliberate.

The way we manage stress is usually on autopilot.

We just kind of do what we do.

But the thing we know about stress is that when it reaches a certain point, that's true about any kind of stress or performance pressure, then we start to mismanage it.

Then we start to go on autopilot and make all the wrong decisions because our unconscious mind, our automatic decisions are not going to be constructive.

They're going to be there to give us immediate relief, not to actually set us up for success.