Hayley Vernon

you're looking for validation through the external through what you're actually looking uh what you look like through the superficial as opposed to like knowing your self-worth and so now like he's getting it uh reconfirmed by strangers which is sad within itself because he's lost who he is through doing this yeah and i suppose now i mean with me and him it's

100% I think I think it's a worthwhile conversation you know at the end of the day it's this is like totally my perspective on it from being like you know in my shoes and as a couple you need to navigate that but you need to be comfortable with it as well and he needs to be comfortable with it but what a what a great thing it would be for him to realize that he's so much more than that and um getting a game plan to get out because it's not something that has longevity um

or maybe he's happy with that.

But I just know that, remember when I used to have those conversations with you and I used to be like, oh, you know, the right type of guy will like, you know, be okay with it.

And, you know, I said it to you like a million times, like about getting a partner.

I'm so thankful because I would never want to date a man that would be okay with me doing it because it shows the values that he has.

And the type of guy that I wanted would not want his missus showing their bits and pieces to the world.

He would just want it for a loving relationship.

A hundred, a hundred, a hundred percent.

But that's how low my self-worth got because I was like, you start to just push all your standards, all your, everything that you would have stood for just dropped so much lower because you're kind of happy with what you can get at that point.

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.

You actually didn't tell me this, but I just read it in your book recently.

See how desperate we became in that moment where we were just craving any kind of love or attention because we were so broken.

We weren't whole.

It's, yeah, it's, you know what, it's, I feel like you need to get clear on what you want, Josh.

Stefano needs to get clear on what he wants.

And if you both value your relationship, you will come up with something

a plan moving forward, whether that's to cut the OnlyFans, to do something that you're both happy with, find some middle ground.

But ultimately, you want a mature relationship where you have a husband who isn't delving into sex work.

And why couldn't this be something that you guys eventuate into a marriage?