Heather Lohmeyer
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And what's crazy is that the day that we're doing this recording marks three days, or I'm sorry, three years from that exact. So it's three years today that we found out we lost.
And what's crazy is that the day that we're doing this recording marks three days, or I'm sorry, three years from that exact. So it's three years today that we found out we lost.
It was just toward the end of the pregnancy. So just because that was actually going to be my first weekly one. It was two weeks prior to the one I missed because of the snowstorm. But when I finally delivered McKinsley, they did see a teeny tiny kink in the umbilical cord. And that is what happened.
It was just toward the end of the pregnancy. So just because that was actually going to be my first weekly one. It was two weeks prior to the one I missed because of the snowstorm. But when I finally delivered McKinsley, they did see a teeny tiny kink in the umbilical cord. And that is what happened.
It was just toward the end of the pregnancy. So just because that was actually going to be my first weekly one. It was two weeks prior to the one I missed because of the snowstorm. But when I finally delivered McKinsley, they did see a teeny tiny kink in the umbilical cord. And that is what happened.
It's just one of those things that can unfortunately happen. You know, at least that's what I was told. I don't know if they can catch those things on an ultrasound. Some doctors asked more questions and some doctors have told me yes, some have said no. So I don't really have a clear answer on that. But it's hard to think the what ifs.
It's just one of those things that can unfortunately happen. You know, at least that's what I was told. I don't know if they can catch those things on an ultrasound. Some doctors asked more questions and some doctors have told me yes, some have said no. So I don't really have a clear answer on that. But it's hard to think the what ifs.
It's just one of those things that can unfortunately happen. You know, at least that's what I was told. I don't know if they can catch those things on an ultrasound. Some doctors asked more questions and some doctors have told me yes, some have said no. So I don't really have a clear answer on that. But it's hard to think the what ifs.
What if the snow didn't come and I still had my weekly checkup? Would they have caught something?
What if the snow didn't come and I still had my weekly checkup? Would they have caught something?
What if the snow didn't come and I still had my weekly checkup? Would they have caught something?
It's hard because the blame game happens. I can think of every detail leading up to that day. You think, did I sleep wrong? Did I eat wrong? Did I move wrong? You blame yourself and your body. This is what we're made to do. Our bodies are supposed to be able to deal give children life. And so when my body didn't do that, it was just really confusing.
It's hard because the blame game happens. I can think of every detail leading up to that day. You think, did I sleep wrong? Did I eat wrong? Did I move wrong? You blame yourself and your body. This is what we're made to do. Our bodies are supposed to be able to deal give children life. And so when my body didn't do that, it was just really confusing.
It's hard because the blame game happens. I can think of every detail leading up to that day. You think, did I sleep wrong? Did I eat wrong? Did I move wrong? You blame yourself and your body. This is what we're made to do. Our bodies are supposed to be able to deal give children life. And so when my body didn't do that, it was just really confusing.
And I remember after delivering her, everybody around me was just talking about funeral arrangements. And I couldn't, my head couldn't figure out what was going on. I had just given birth for the first time. And everybody around me is talking about planning a funeral. My head just couldn't connect the two at all what was going on in that moment.
And I remember after delivering her, everybody around me was just talking about funeral arrangements. And I couldn't, my head couldn't figure out what was going on. I had just given birth for the first time. And everybody around me is talking about planning a funeral. My head just couldn't connect the two at all what was going on in that moment.
And I remember after delivering her, everybody around me was just talking about funeral arrangements. And I couldn't, my head couldn't figure out what was going on. I had just given birth for the first time. And everybody around me is talking about planning a funeral. My head just couldn't connect the two at all what was going on in that moment.
My husband was like that. So Ben was like that. He honestly thought she might be okay when I delivered her, but I personally knew because the kicks were gone. I couldn't feel her anymore. And I, It is the craziest thing to feel life die inside of you. I don't know how to explain that. I don't know how to explain that. But I remember the last kick that I felt being very faint.
My husband was like that. So Ben was like that. He honestly thought she might be okay when I delivered her, but I personally knew because the kicks were gone. I couldn't feel her anymore. And I, It is the craziest thing to feel life die inside of you. I don't know how to explain that. I don't know how to explain that. But I remember the last kick that I felt being very faint.
My husband was like that. So Ben was like that. He honestly thought she might be okay when I delivered her, but I personally knew because the kicks were gone. I couldn't feel her anymore. And I, It is the craziest thing to feel life die inside of you. I don't know how to explain that. I don't know how to explain that. But I remember the last kick that I felt being very faint.