Heather Lohmeyer

And so you think like, was that the moment I had to ask my OBGYN, you know, did she suffer? Was she okay? You know, as a mom, you just want to protect her. And the hardest thing that Ben and I had to do was we had her with us in the hospital room that night. They graciously moved us to a different floor that didn't have any crying babies on it to protect me.

And so you think like, was that the moment I had to ask my OBGYN, you know, did she suffer? Was she okay? You know, as a mom, you just want to protect her. And the hardest thing that Ben and I had to do was we had her with us in the hospital room that night. They graciously moved us to a different floor that didn't have any crying babies on it to protect me.

And so you think like, was that the moment I had to ask my OBGYN, you know, did she suffer? Was she okay? You know, as a mom, you just want to protect her. And the hardest thing that Ben and I had to do was we had her with us in the hospital room that night. They graciously moved us to a different floor that didn't have any crying babies on it to protect me.

So the hospital was wonderful with that. But the hardest moment was when Ben and I had to send her down.

So the hospital was wonderful with that. But the hardest moment was when Ben and I had to send her down.

So the hospital was wonderful with that. But the hardest moment was when Ben and I had to send her down.

The nurse we had was very caring. She told us to take our time with her. But they did talk to us about how it is better to preserve. And we did get to spend, you know, days with her in the mortuary. Ben and I took our favorite books up there. We read to her. We sang to her. We tried to get as many parent moments as we could in with her. And it was hard for me to hold her at first.

The nurse we had was very caring. She told us to take our time with her. But they did talk to us about how it is better to preserve. And we did get to spend, you know, days with her in the mortuary. Ben and I took our favorite books up there. We read to her. We sang to her. We tried to get as many parent moments as we could in with her. And it was hard for me to hold her at first.

The nurse we had was very caring. She told us to take our time with her. But they did talk to us about how it is better to preserve. And we did get to spend, you know, days with her in the mortuary. Ben and I took our favorite books up there. We read to her. We sang to her. We tried to get as many parent moments as we could in with her. And it was hard for me to hold her at first.

And that was still very hard. I wanted to just keep her warm. But she was already just gone. And I know this is so difficult to talk about, but it happens more often than we realize. Miscarriages are 1 in 4. Stillbirths are 1 in 175. And so I know that we have heard you talk about miscarriages on your end. It's nothing that any mother should have to go through.

And that was still very hard. I wanted to just keep her warm. But she was already just gone. And I know this is so difficult to talk about, but it happens more often than we realize. Miscarriages are 1 in 4. Stillbirths are 1 in 175. And so I know that we have heard you talk about miscarriages on your end. It's nothing that any mother should have to go through.

And that was still very hard. I wanted to just keep her warm. But she was already just gone. And I know this is so difficult to talk about, but it happens more often than we realize. Miscarriages are 1 in 4. Stillbirths are 1 in 175. And so I know that we have heard you talk about miscarriages on your end. It's nothing that any mother should have to go through.

And so I kind of want to ask you, how was that for you? I don't even know how many miscarriages you actually had.

And so I kind of want to ask you, how was that for you? I don't even know how many miscarriages you actually had.

And so I kind of want to ask you, how was that for you? I don't even know how many miscarriages you actually had.

I do. I told you.

I do. I told you.

I do. I told you.

I think everybody can handle it differently too. I will say that going full term, you know, you're at the end, you're at the finish line. But also when you have a miscarriage too, that doesn't make the loss any less than when you have a stillbirth. A loss is a loss. It may just be the grieving may be a little bit different in the stages that you go through.

I think everybody can handle it differently too. I will say that going full term, you know, you're at the end, you're at the finish line. But also when you have a miscarriage too, that doesn't make the loss any less than when you have a stillbirth. A loss is a loss. It may just be the grieving may be a little bit different in the stages that you go through.