Helen Thorn

That you kind of think, I'll make it out that it's their problem of all the things that I'm doing.

Yeah.

And it did not sit well with him.

He's like, how come you get to have this and I don't?

And even when, so we did 18 months of couples council during that full year of the affair, because I knew that he'd been a bit withdrawn and I thought, oh, we need to nut it out.

And I did think that we were getting closer, you know, we were, we were talking more, but he was having that affair.

And he did say during couples council once, he said,

How come when you walk into a room, you light up the room and everyone wants to talk to you and no one wants to talk to me?

And that just made me want to shrink.

That made me like, I'm sorry.

I don't know.

Maybe I'm not a bastard.

Yeah.

And I remember after we'd separated, I said, you know, we did do counselling once a week for 18 months.

You could have brought it up.

You know, it was a kind of a safe place when the therapist said, anything else you want to talk about?

Didn't, didn't, yeah, didn't think that was the right spot.

So the

Yeah, I think when you're going back to what you were saying a few minutes ago about the betrayal, there were so many opportunities for him to go, I've made a mistake, I'm out.

He wanted his cake and eat it.