Hester Grainger

But I think there can be that worry that we're going to forget things.

So you just put everything out.

You leave everything out for that fear.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And this is it.

There's, you know, the old ADHD tax, the cost of everything, you know, it's like a fake tax, but the cost of rebuying vitamins because you put them in the cupboard and forgot.

Or I will look in cupboards and be like, I know there's a particular cleaning product in here.

I cannot find it, so I'm just going to buy it again.

And then you look and you go, hold on, we've already got three of those exact same cleaning products.

I don't need the same.

And I think there's this perception, isn't there, that if I find the exact right cleaning product or cloth or storage solution, my life is going to be perfect.

Oh, my God.

It's going to all be answered.

All my prayers are answered.

And we know that's not the case.

And I think that's why it's really helpful to understand your brain, understand what works, but take away that shame.

I'm always talking about being kind to yourself and being kind about yourself.

And I think that is what...

understanding ADHD and your ADHD brings is the kindness so actually you don't then beat yourself up about it when you have forgotten that those vitamins are in there or something random is in a cupboard but I think it's the whole object permanence and out of sight out of mind you have to bear that in mind because actually otherwise you are going to constantly keep me buying vitamins or whatever it is because they're just you know it's okay as long as everything's got a place it's when lots of things are everywhere that's when the problem starts