Hester Grainger

memory and you know like you said the working memory but also those thoughts and i know my husband kelly talks a lot about you know he's so busy like for example when the kids were younger he can't remember them sometimes in certain situations and actually as you say these random items act as a prompt to spark that memory off which makes you really happy but there's do you know what there's an amazing program i think it's still on netflix called the minimalists

Right now, minimalists is not normally a word you'd associate with ADHDers, but they're absolutely amazing, two American guys.

And basically, whenever I watch that, I get really inspired.

And it's like, actually, you don't need the memory of the vitamins cluttering up your cupboard because you're with your partner and you've got that memory.

But like sometimes it just needs unlocking, doesn't it?

So actually what you then might do is come up with a new health journey or go together and buy some more vitamins, but then put them in a place that you can see them.

So you remember to take them and actually that memory will then sort of be elongated and go on for longer.

actually that's why i'm hoarding those pills it's nothing to do with the fact that i can't throw them out i just don't want to lose the memory of that feeling yeah exactly i mean we could psychoanalyze this couldn't we for days it's so interesting isn't it though but you're right i mean there's loads of research isn't around smells and memory and you know even from when you're younger or like you know mowed lawns and oh my god that was a great summer we had and we played in the garden and it was brilliant and loads of fun and all that kind of thing

And I think, you know, equally smiles can then have negative impacts as well.

But you're right.

It's those memories that we put on things.

And that's sometimes why it's quite difficult to part with things that someone else, you know, if anyone's got small children and a collection of stones and sticks, that child will remember exactly where each stick came from.

And to someone else, it might be a stick.

But to that child, especially, you know, if they're neurodivergent, they will know exactly where that stick came from and exactly where that stone came from and actually we keep them.

And I think it's about being respectful with things like that.

You don't just bin them because you think they're sticks and they don't matter, you know, but then again, maybe they're in the garden and they're not on the sideboard in the kitchen kind of thing.

So it is really interesting, isn't it?

Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, yeah.

And I think that that's a really great one with like children's artwork and stuff.