Hester Grainger

the grief and the effort and the energy that it takes I know that we used to have like spare school ties because the chances are we'd have lost a school tie somewhere along the way and actually you then always find it I have multiple of the same lip glosses I want in my bag one in the car you know I keep lots of things in the car because I know that actually I'm probably going to need them in there so yes multiples of lots of things if you can afford it I think is really important and

And it just makes life a lot easier because then you have a phone charger in the sitting room, in the bedroom, you know, in the car, for example, whatever.

Then you've always got something with you.

Whereas I think if you've got this just one item, this precious item that you're, you know, you're just always going to lose it, aren't you?

Which is really frustrating.

Yes, because it's right there, isn't it?

You can then just plug your phone in or you can then, you know, with the kids as well, I think it's really helpful to get them involved and be like, right, there we go.

You know, I remember we literally had five lots of school uniform.

So, you know, five lots of shirts, I think three pairs of trousers, to be fair.

But then there was just no...

everything was hung up you could see it visually you know if you're a grown-up and you're trying to plan your outfits for the week you know have them hanging up so you can visually see that's what I'm going to be wearing today and then you know it's clean etc rather than trying to scrabble around that morning

Be kind to yourself, little and often.

And I think it's like, you don't need to reinvent the wheel.

I think there's a real perception of, I need to scrub the bathroom from top to toe.

you know, actually, is it okay just to whiz around with a quick bathroom wipe?

I know they're not the most environmentally friendly, but actually ADHD, et cetera, just whiz around.

You're going to feel a lot better for it as well.

And I think it's about remembering the shame that there is no shame.

It's okay.

You know, body doubling is great, but I just think remembering, just be kind to yourself because it's hard enough, isn't it?