Hilary McVeigh

He was just pointing something out because he's legitimately very tidy and very neat.

And in my mind, it's like, I'm a bad person.

I'm doing wrong.

I'm not going to be loved.

And so I would have this big emotional response in myself.

It might not have even told him, but I'm like, oh, I'm such a terrible person.

He's

I would actually believe that.

Or it goes unconscious, I might lash out to him and, you know, say all nasty things.

When in reality, I was like, okay, wow, this is showing me where I have some form of a belief that if I'm not perfect, then I won't be loved.

And I could feel the fear, like fear that he was going to leave or something.

And it wasn't rational, but I could feel like the little girl within me

of this makes me not lovable i need to overgive overprove myself right now and i could stop i could pause i could see what is this inviting me okay i can sit with this i can shift and totally change the energy around this and come back from a loving higher self energy what would she do in this moment okay received understood like i can understand that this created some

friction in your life for my partner that created a big experience for him.

But at the same time, that doesn't have to mean anything about who I am.

I can just receive it and keep moving on with my life.

So it makes you more aware of the unconscious, subconscious beliefs and narratives that are actually dictating your life and your behavior.

Because if I have that belief of I need to be perfect in order to be loved, that's going to change and show up in all aspects of my life.

It's going to mean that I do type of work that I think I need to do.

It's going to mean that I am perfectionist in that work.