Hilary McVeigh

All these decisions, yes, I made these decisions, but did I actually make these decisions?

Or did my conditioning make these decisions?

And so conditioning, as you said, is all the ways we learned that we had to be in order to be loved, accepted, successful, all the things we want.

All the things that is a human right.

And so we've picked up these illusionary thoughts that we have to contort or be a certain way and everyone is going to have their different experience.

I believe that we have a karmic journey here and it's kind of chosen.

We chose what conditioning we needed to receive and then unpack.

And, you know, there can be quite universal ones, especially women can have a lot around desirability, appearance, lovability, safety.

And men can have a lot about success, achievement, stoicism.

Like there's an overlap for all of us, but you can see that common denominator.

And what we're doing with deconditioning is releasing all the ways that are not actually true or authentic to us.

So you are left with who you are.

And that's a process.

And life will always invite you to show you where you are not truly free.

And that's been my biggest motivation is when I see things show up in my life of like, wow, I've just reacted differently.

in a very big way to this trigger or to that conversation or to that comment.

And this took me some time, but I have gotten into that place where I can actually be grateful when my partner triggers me.

I'm like, wow, he just showed me a place where I am not free because I'm worried about my

Something small, like it used to really trigger me when he's definitely a lot more OCD than I am.

And it used to really trigger me that if I would leave something out or I did something quote unquote wrong is how I saw it.