Hiroko Yoda

who was American, we asked him if he was ordained.

And he said, no, I just worked here.

I'm working here.

So we just laughed.

But it's just things like that.

But see, the thing is that those two first parts are a very happy thing.

Celebratory.

But third one, the high Buddhist, that's very hard.

And, you know, we, all of us want to go through as quick as possible.

The having the Buddhist style, it's not Buddhist, Buddhist style of funerals are custom.

And, of course, the new generation's

like me, for example, that kind of started changing.

But my parents' generation, until my parents' generation, it was almost like a social norm.

And there are a lot of, you know, the good Buddhist funerals, and a lot of people do that still today.

So the experiences that I wrote in my book is 100% my personal experiences.

But I raised a lot of questions because I didn't consider myself as a Buddhist.

And we had to invite a monk who we've never met and in such a difficult time, which is my mother's funeral.

Expensive.

It's very expensive, which I had no idea.

And no idea.