Howard Behar

And he's a gruff guy, the absolute merchant prince. but a great guy. And his shareholders used to say, why do you pay so much? They paid a lot of money for their hourly. And why do you give them all these benefits? And he used to say, no, if you don't like the stock, sell it. And I think we need more leaders that say, if you don't like the stock, sell it. We're here for the long term.

And he's a gruff guy, the absolute merchant prince. but a great guy. And his shareholders used to say, why do you pay so much? They paid a lot of money for their hourly. And why do you give them all these benefits? And he used to say, no, if you don't like the stock, sell it. And I think we need more leaders that say, if you don't like the stock, sell it. We're here for the long term.

If you're not here for the long term, do something else with your time. But it's hard to do because you've got to perform over the long term. But it's what kills organizations.

If you're not here for the long term, do something else with your time. But it's hard to do because you've got to perform over the long term. But it's what kills organizations.

I've always been a believer in affirmations, and I've used affirmations to correct myself, to hold myself accountable, to live my life. And so two of my most important affirmations is I love myself unconditionally, and I have that sitting in my bathroom in front of the toilet. I figure if I can love myself there, I can love myself anywhere.

I've always been a believer in affirmations, and I've used affirmations to correct myself, to hold myself accountable, to live my life. And so two of my most important affirmations is I love myself unconditionally, and I have that sitting in my bathroom in front of the toilet. I figure if I can love myself there, I can love myself anywhere.

And it's hard to love yourself unconditionally, and I don't all the time. And then the other one is I am enough, I have enough, I do enough. Because that's always been a struggle of mine. Am I really doing enough? Am I getting it done? Am I achieving all that I want to achieve? But I think a lot of it's family of origin stuff. I was the baby of the family. I could do no wrong, so to speak.

And it's hard to love yourself unconditionally, and I don't all the time. And then the other one is I am enough, I have enough, I do enough. Because that's always been a struggle of mine. Am I really doing enough? Am I getting it done? Am I achieving all that I want to achieve? But I think a lot of it's family of origin stuff. I was the baby of the family. I could do no wrong, so to speak.

And so I had that unconditional love. I think that helped a lot. You know, I had the opposite side of that. My mother was always trying to protect me. I'd come home and say, I'm not very good at athletics. And she said, Howard, not everybody can be a good athlete. And no matter what I said I wasn't good at, she said, not everybody can be. And I kind of internalized it that I wasn't good enough.

And so I had that unconditional love. I think that helped a lot. You know, I had the opposite side of that. My mother was always trying to protect me. I'd come home and say, I'm not very good at athletics. And she said, Howard, not everybody can be a good athlete. And no matter what I said I wasn't good at, she said, not everybody can be. And I kind of internalized it that I wasn't good enough.

And it used to make me mad. Finally, it wasn't until my mid-20s that I just pushed back against it. And I said, I can. And I had probably the single most important mentor in my life was in my mid-20s, a guy named Jim Jensen. And he was a guy with an incredibly bright side, but equally his dark side. He was a guy that introduced me to affirmations.

And it used to make me mad. Finally, it wasn't until my mid-20s that I just pushed back against it. And I said, I can. And I had probably the single most important mentor in my life was in my mid-20s, a guy named Jim Jensen. And he was a guy with an incredibly bright side, but equally his dark side. He was a guy that introduced me to affirmations.

He introduced me to Robert Greenlee's work on servant leadership. He introduced me to the belief that I could do anything. If I set my mind to it, I didn't have all that. He gave me the skills and pushed me to believe in myself and held me up when I was struggling. And it was an important part of my life. He changed my life. I look back at those times and he did really change my life.

He introduced me to Robert Greenlee's work on servant leadership. He introduced me to the belief that I could do anything. If I set my mind to it, I didn't have all that. He gave me the skills and pushed me to believe in myself and held me up when I was struggling. And it was an important part of my life. He changed my life. I look back at those times and he did really change my life.

So I give the credit to others. I've always been a kind of a people guy. They call me Happy Howie. I've had a smile on my face my whole life. And people related to that. So I was good at that. I didn't understand what I was doing. I was not a conscious competent. I was just being Howard.

So I give the credit to others. I've always been a kind of a people guy. They call me Happy Howie. I've had a smile on my face my whole life. And people related to that. So I was good at that. I didn't understand what I was doing. I was not a conscious competent. I was just being Howard.

But over time, as I learned about servant leadership and Robert Greenlee's work, I attached to it and I became a conscious competent at servant leadership. Not only could I do it, but I knew how to teach it. And so that's what I did.

But over time, as I learned about servant leadership and Robert Greenlee's work, I attached to it and I became a conscious competent at servant leadership. Not only could I do it, but I knew how to teach it. And so that's what I did.

Get clear about who you are, what your core values are, what you stand for in this life. So I have, I'll show it to you. I carry this around. I've had this for almost 50 years. You can't read it all, but this is Howard in 50 words or less. So on this document, it has my mission statement. It has my eight core values and my six P's, how I do everything. And I live by this. This drives me.

Get clear about who you are, what your core values are, what you stand for in this life. So I have, I'll show it to you. I carry this around. I've had this for almost 50 years. You can't read it all, but this is Howard in 50 words or less. So on this document, it has my mission statement. It has my eight core values and my six P's, how I do everything. And I live by this. This drives me.