Isaiah McKimmie

Maybe they really like me, but maybe they don't desire me.

So it can be really uncomfortable if you're not someone who likes physical touch and you're with someone who's constantly wanting to touch you.

It can be stressful.

It can have you feel a little bit on edge.

You can also feel guilty that you're not able to meet the other partner's needs for touch and affection.

You can feel confused because you're trying to give love in all of these other ways.

And it's like, I do love you.

I am attracted to you.

Why do you need this one thing to be able to see that?

So it can be really kind of confusing on both sides.

So that's an interesting one because initially I would kind of think, okay, that's a little bit of a red flag potentially.

Like, is that a little bit performative?

Is this just about how it looks to everyone else?

But I would be really curious to ask more about what's going on there.

Is it that touch in front of other people feel safer?

It's not as intimate.

It's not as vulnerable.

It's not going to lead somewhere.

So then does it feel easier to engage with?

Like what actually is going on underneath there?