Jake

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean, and for her, I think she's still figuring out what that means, but the example she brought up and what is still driving me to consider divorce.

Because I think if it had been phrased differently, it wouldn't have come up as a consideration.

But she also mentioned potentially opening up the relationship.

And she was very clear, like, if you say no, it is a hard no.

I'm not going to try and force this open or anything along those lines.

But the fact that she brought it up was a big deal for me because before we got married, that was a very clear shared value.

Like our definition of marriage, part of that is monogamy.

Yeah, opening it up is not part of that.

And so now I'm at a place where, you know, I'm honored that I've created a safe place for her where she is, you know, feeling free to ask these questions of herself.

But my concern is now if her value has diverged that much from mine, I don't know how to work with that.

I mean, what I'd like is for someone to tell me what to do.

I guess I feel like, you know, there's, there's things I can handle and maybe even this I could handle, but I don't know how much farther are we going to diverge in values.

And she's denied that.

She said that, you know, she's, I mean, even after that whole conversation, it sent her into a tailspin.

She said she wished she could take it back because she loves me.

She wants to be with me.

She finds me attractive and that's all great.

But I mean, and I fully believe her when she says there's not been someone else that she's like had her eyes on or anything along those lines, which helps, I think.