Jake

I think for me, like I,

I think for me, I want stability in a marriage.

And if, and I'm going to come back to the values, not this specific one, but if those values are shifting, I feel like I don't have that stability.

I mean, she said that she won't do it if I'm not up for it, but just the fact that like, that she's open to the idea.

Yeah, exactly.

Exactly.

Okay.

And yeah.

It is, it is.

I think I'm just, I've just witnessed her change and grow as a person.

And so I think what a lot of this is, is my internal fear that that's, because that's the biggest one, far and away.

There's nothing that even comes into the same category of things we've changed our mind on.

Oh, I apologize.

That's not what I meant to say.

What I meant to say was what I meant, what she communicated to me was that

Um, she is sorry that she worded it that way.

She is sorry that she, um, did not plan ahead and how she was going to communicate this, but she still sees, she still sees opening up the relationship as something that's viable.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean, and I believe her when she says, you know, without my consent, she wouldn't, you know, go out on her own and do that.