James Sexton
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
How much poorer are you for it?
What you're really saying is I'm scared.
I'm scared.
I'm scared if I do this.
and it doesn't work.
And they don't do that for me.
They don't love me as much as I love them.
That's what you're afraid of.
Like that's really the core of what you're afraid of.
If you're not really trying in your relationship, it's not that you don't care about your relationship.
It's that you're afraid that if you try,
The other person won't try.
And that means you don't have value, right?
Like embarrassment is, you know, I did something stupid or I did something wrong.
Shame is there's something wrong with me.
And I think that's the thing we're afraid of.
We're afraid, what if I keep trying and showing up for this person and then they don't do it for me because they don't really love me?
Because again, I think...
It is much harder to be loved than to love.
I think we feel tremendous amounts of love for people and animals, and we feel a lot of love.