James Sexton

And I think that's awesome.

Like, I think you have sex with as many women as you want to and it happens to be,

Like I murder and rape as many people as I want to.

Which is zero, because I'm not a monster, right?

But it's, I don't not do it because it's illegal and I'm afraid I'll get in trouble.

No, I don't do it because like, so I think ideally you would want Lisa to only have sex with you because she finds sex with you deeply satisfying

when you've eaten, you're not hungry anymore.

So she feels like you guys have sufficient quality and quantity of sex for her needs to be met.

That you believe trading variety for depth is good.

And that you guys feel you've found a real intimate connection together that you couldn't easily like reproduce with someone else.

Like not, you know, I'd get in trouble.

Or like, well, you know, then we might divorce.

Like if the only thing keeping you from sleeping with other women is the threat of Lisa divorcing you, like don't do her any favors, man.

Like I think at the end of the day, like you guys sleep with as many people as you want to and it's one and that's great.

That's a beautiful, beautiful thing.

But I'm willing to bet

that part of that is that you guys have open connection about that, communication about that.

You ask questions of like, hey, if something has changed, if we're having more sex, less sex, we're having different kind of sex, I'm having, but again, in the negotiation of it.

So the way that you, because the question was about negotiation.

The example I always give is I don't believe in like, I believe in radical honesty, but I also believe that like sometimes it's good to like take a different route somewhere.