James Sexton

I have a 26-year-old and a 28-year-old.

I am very much a believer still in marriage.

I think the value that a good marriage adds to someone's life is just beyond measure, and I think on every level.

But I think marriage is like the lottery.

You're probably not going to win.

But if you win, what you win is so good that it would be really difficult to argue you shouldn't buy the ticket.

And unlike the lottery, you can actually do things to improve your chances of success in a marriage.

And I think the red flags are actually sort of the counter of what I would see as what you need to do for the marriage to be a successful and stable one.

And I think...

You know, you're a divorced man, I'm a divorced man.

Like, we learn, I learn from my mistakes.

I have to step on the rake in order to learn how to do something well.

And I think sometimes people who've been divorced or have shepherded, you know, hundreds if not thousands now of people through a divorce, we get a very unique view of, okay, here's where people get things wrong.

I think big red flags are the things that draw us together are sometimes things that in the long term are going to be hard for us to navigate.

So, you know, you may love the fact that you're this disciplined, focused, really, you know, like OCD person.

And she is, you know, more like, you know, free and easy.

It's a barefoot in the park kind of a thing going on, you know.

In dating...

Like, you help her be a little more serious, she helps you be a little lighter-hearted.

Man, that feels so good when you're dating somebody.