James Sexton

I think it's all...

it's all like making it a practice you know like measure what matters you know like i think it's okay like first of all i think when the relationship is still good is the time to say this is kind of a job and i want to be good at it i want to be good at this job like you're going to be the only person i sleep with i'm going to be the only person you sleep with

So I want to be good at that.

Like I want you to be happy that I'm the only person you sleep with.

And I want to be happy that you're the only person I sleep with.

I want to be able to make you laugh.

I want to be able to make you, when you are hurting, I want to know how to comfort you.

Am I just supposed to like figure that out?

No, like ideally we can share with each other.

Like, hey, and again, it doesn't have to be like we sit down and have some summit.

You know, it could just be a practice.

It could just be,

Tell me three things I did this week that made you feel loved.

Tell me three things I did this week that I could have done better to make you feel loved.

Not to attack me.

I want to be good at this job.

It's an important job.

I signed on for it for life.

I wanna be good at it.

So how can I be good at it if I don't check in on it, right?