James Sexton

Like, this is so great.

It's going so well.

I want it to stay really good.

So I'm going to marry them because that will be like the wall we build around this thing, the fortress that'll keep it safe.

And I just don't think that's honest.

I don't think you can have a long-term relationship with someone, have the changes, the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune that everybody has in their life.

And conversely,

Thinking that marriage will change a person is another big problem.

They are going to change, but they may not change in the ways you hope they would as a function of marriage.

Like, you know, he drinks a little too much now, but once we get married, if we have kids, he'll stop that.

Or, you know, he works a ton now, but once we get married, he'll make more time and he won't push it so redline.

Like, I think sometimes the things we think are going to change don't and the things we hope won't do.

And that leads, unless there's good communication, that leads to a lot of disappointment.

I mean, listen, playing above the rim is excellent.

I mean, you know, Ed, first of all, what I'll say is Scott and I are proof of the fact that, thank God, for good women with terrible taste in men.

That's right.

I think one step I think is really important is to talk when you're not fighting about, hey, at some point we're going to disagree on something.

What does that look like for you?

Do you need a minute?

Are you somebody that like, give me a minute so the emotion of it calms down and maybe we sleep on it, we'll talk in the morning?