James Sexton

Or are you the, hey, we got to figure this out right now.

I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight if we don't work it out right now.

Like, I need you to engage with me on this because I can't let this sit and fester.

The time to have that conversation is when you are in that place of abundant goodwill and deep connection to each other.

Because look, this is a job the two of you signed up for, the job of loving each other, the job of being the other person's person.

Like marriage is fundamentally, you're my favorite person.

Like there are 8 billion in the world and you're my favorite one.

I like that.

What more beautiful four words could someone say than you're my favorite person?

And what more beautiful four words could you hear someone say and know they mean than you're my favorite person?

Like that's the most lovely sentiment.

And if I had a toast for you at your wedding, you know, it would be, I hope 50 years from now,

one of you when you're losing each other, because every marriage ends, it ends in death or divorce, and I hope yours will end in death.

That's a weird thing to say to a human being, but I hope it does.

I hope what you'll say to each other is, this person helped me become the most authentic version of myself, and they're still my favorite person.

And that's the greatest blessing you can shoot for.

And I think the way to do that is to not be afraid

to talk about, hey, when we disconnect, what's the best way to reconnect?

The other thing is, I think that, look, man, we have all these gadgets, all these reminders, all these little watches and whoops and all the things we all use, you know?

I don't think there's anything wrong with, you know, every day just taking a minute to remind yourself, hey, her, like, keep her in your line of sight.