James Sexton

I'm going to put them in charge of my finances.

This is great.

This is the best and brightest the world has to offer.

Like, that's who you're trusting if you don't do a prenup together.

But look, I've represented victims of intimate partner abuse, coercive control, domestic violence for many years.

And what I will say is I've learned conclusively from that that you cannot feel loved if you don't feel safe.

like the most important thing is to feel safe.

And safety comes in a lot of forms.

It comes in the form of physical safety, which is obviously the most important, but also emotional safety, economic safety.

When you love someone enough to marry them,

you should want them to feel safe.

And, you know, there's a line from a song by Prince off the album Sign of the Times.

It's a song called If I Was Your Girlfriend.

And Prince, as a man, is singing it to a woman he's dating.

And one of the lyrics is, if I was your girlfriend, would you run to me if somebody hurt you, even if that somebody was me?

And I always thought that was a very romantic line, because the truth is, like, that's what a prenup conversation is.

What are you afraid of?

Like, what are you afraid of in this relationship?

I'm afraid that I'm going to sacrifice a bunch of things and trust you to take care of the finances, and I'm going to diminish my lifetime earning capacity, and then you're going to find a younger model and split.

hey, you know what?