James Sexton

And you have a message, oh, where'd you guys stay in Tulum?

We were thinking about maybe going ourselves.

Oh, well, you look great, you know, da-da-da.

Now we're talking.

And we're talking privately, by the way.

If at the soccer practice I grabbed that mom and was like, let's go over here behind the bleachers and talk, everyone would look and go, what are you doing, man?

Whereas if I'm doing that on the couch next to my wife, she doesn't even know I'm having that conversation.

So there is so much coming at marriage right now.

that I am shocked that the divorce rate isn't higher than it is and that the marriage satisfaction rate is going to survive this at all because there is just such an endless progression of comparison and false performative things.

I want to believe, the optimist in me wants to believe that part of the popularity of my work

is how honest and blunt I am about the challenges we're facing, but how it has not taken my optimism and belief in love and how ultimately the most important thing in life is to find deep connection and to feel loved and to feel worthy of love.

I think our greatest fear is that if people knew us, the real us, they couldn't possibly love us.

And I think that real romantic love is about someone looking at you and seeing, I see you.

I see the good, the bad, the fool in you, the hero in you, and I love you.

I love the whole thing of you, and I'm cheering for you.

And I believe in you.

To me, that's the most worthwhile, beautiful sentiment in the world.

It's a superpower if you find it and can keep it.

But like everything that has value, it requires some effort.

And I think we're not doing anybody any favors by pretending that it's effortless.