James Sexton

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TRIGGERnometry · How Not To Ruin Your Marriage - World's Leading Divorce Expert - James Sexton · 22 Feb 2026 podcast

And it doesn't even have to be only sort of negative things, although the negative things are normally born, like no single raindrop's responsible for the flood.

But the flood's made up of nothing but raindrops.

So it's all these little things.

And if you've been married for 20 years, then you know the feeling of sitting with your spouse, and you're at the kitchen table, and you're having a heated discussion about the best traffic route to take to get to the place you're going that afternoon.

And 20 minutes later, it's like, and I never liked your mother, and she's never respect.

And you're like, wait, where did that come from?

How did we get to that?

How long have you been holding that in your back pocket?

But that's what happens is there's these little things that build up over time.

So I think the antidote is to those kinds of catastrophic failures, as silly as it sounds, is very basic communication.

It's very basic and early communication.

If something blips on your emotional radar, what is the harm in saying to your partner,

Look, I just want to say, when we were talking the other day, and you made that little joke about my sister, maybe you were just joking.

But for a second, it sat kind of weird with me, because I like the fact that you like my sister.

And it felt like what you said, maybe it means that you don't or something.

So if I misunderstood you, I'm sorry.

and then it's an opportunity for this person to say oh no i was just kidding or to say but again it's not in the context of the conversation because that can bring out something defensive in someone and it also gives you a chance to think about how you parse it because if for example and i'm not using your relationship as an example but if you were to say to a spouse when you have a three-year-old if you were to say to your spouse you know we don't have sex as often as we used to you know we got a three-year-old running around all the time like it's understandable but we don't have sex as often as we used to

That invites a defensive dialogue.

Well, of course we don't.

We've got a three-year-old running around and I'm exhausted at the end of the day.

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