James Sexton

And then you're going to go, Jim, you're the best ever.

I love you so much.

Let's go have sex.

But in fact, very often what they want is not, well, here's what you should do.

You should talk to this person.

Well, have you tried doing X, Y, Z?

They want, wow, that must've been hard.

Like that sucks.

I'm really sorry that happened.

Like they just want connection, empathy, sympathy, you know, for you to hear and sort of like be present and hold space for their experience.

I never knew that.

I never knew that.

Most of the men I know, that's not how we, if I call a buddy of mine and tell him something that's going on in my life and he goes, man, that sucks.

I'd be like, well, what?

Like, I want him to be like, all right, dude, well, here's what you should do, you know?

Like, you know what, that happened to me and here's what I did.

Like, cause we're very linear and problem solving and God bless.

Like this is why the polarity is wonderful, you know, between men and women or even, you know, in same sex couples, same thing.

You always have polarity in relationship.

I just think that, you know, it's not that hard to like build exercises into our relationship.