James Sexton

You know, I think we look at relationships in a strange way.

I think we look at them in this very binary, it was successful or it was failure.

And success is you lived happily ever after, and failure is it ended.

I don't view relationships that way.

I think that we should be looking at relationships like chapters in a long book.

And I think, you know, all the relationships I've had

had, like any good book, moments of bliss and joy and excitement and romance, moments of pain, moments of misunderstanding, moments where I got it wrong, moments where I got it right.

And what kind of story it was is really in the aggregate.

Like, I have two sons.

They're 26 and 28.

And if you look at my worst moment of parenting and you judge me by that moment, I'm a bad father.

If you judge me by my greatest moment as a father, you're giving me way too much credit.

What it really is, is what is it in the aggregate?

What is it in the long term, in the totality?

So I think it's the same thing with love.

I think that the idea that if a relationship ended, it wasn't the right relationship, you picked wrong, it was a waste of time.

I just refuse to believe that.

I mean, if you have children with someone

That's insane to say because you wouldn't have those exact children if at the exact moment.

I mean, we now know about like biology that like three hours later, you'd have had a different kid.