James Sexton

Because whatever you're doing, you know this, whatever you're doing, you're doing it wrong.

Someone's going to tell you you're doing it right, no matter how dumb it is.

And no matter how great it is, someone's going to tell you you're doing it totally wrong.

Totally wrong.

And now you're just like, okay, like information has become a form of garbage.

It comes at you from every direction all the time.

You can't get away from it really to some degree.

And now we're just all convinced like we're doing it wrong or we're doing it right and the other person's doing it wrong no matter what.

And we're just so, like we're just inundated with criticism.

And again, the answer to that, the solution to that is love.

Like the solution to it is love.

Like I think the world is constantly attacking you and making you feel criticized.

Like having a cheerleader, having someone who's like in your corner, because you know, constructive criticism is still criticism.

Yeah, I've heard you talk about that, that like criticism is, yeah.

It's toxic.

It's toxic.

I'm not suggesting you should not hold your partner to standards.

And I think part of being a loving partner and loving someone is like seeing their blind spots and being willing to like brave enough to say to them like, hey, are you sure this is good, what you're doing right now?

Like, is that gonna help?

I know you think it is, but like, I love you.