James Sexton

You can.

Love can be the most transformative force in the world if we allow it to be.

But it's scary because you have to accept the impermanence of it.

You have to accept the fragility of it.

And you have to do this much

routine preventative maintenance to keep it in your line of sight.

I think it's worth it.

That's a good question.

I think the earliest signs are, I would say a few things.

One is where we start

Shifting from, I think the two biggest mistakes people make in relationship are sort of counter posts to each other.

So it'll seem a little contradictory.

The two biggest mistakes people make in relationships is thinking that people are going to change and thinking that people are never going to change.

Okay, so you're dating someone and you're like, if we get married, they won't drink so much.

Like right now they're drinking a lot because we're young and we're partying, but as we get older, they're gonna drink less.

If we have a kid, they're gonna drink less.

It's not, you're thinking someone's gonna change that.

But similarly,

thinking this is how this person is and they're never gonna change.

Like they're always gonna be this way.