Jan Canty
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98 appearances
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1 series
first heard Mar 2025
last heard Mar 2025
Jan Canty’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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On the way over there, in her very professional and caring way, she did her darndest to prepare me to see him in an altered state because he had been buried in a bog for 10 days. in three different places.
Some of his body parts were left on the freeway. I didn't have to identify those. What I had to identify was his head. My dad said, you can't do this by yourself. I'm going to go with you. And I said, Dad, this isn't your problem. This is my problem. But I could not stand. I could literally not stand. It felt like my legs were made out of silly putty.
I do remember Detective Landeros telling me, all you have to do is say yes or no. That's it. And we're out of here. And when they put his head in a table, I couldn't speak. And I closed my eyes and she was very patient. And then she asked me, yes or no. He didn't have his glasses on, but his hair looked the same and his eyelashes and his eyebrows looked the same.
And I said, yes, I was sure it was him.
There was an APB for their whereabouts. And they started having their faces plastered in the news.
He said, I want you to know their faces. I don't think they're on their way to our house. But you're out and about in the community. I want you to be able to identify them if you ever see them. And your first obligation is to call 9-1-1. than me in that order. So that's the first I knew of their faces and connected them with their name.
That doesn't make sense. I just couldn't wrap my head around it. It was so unlike him.
I had so many more urgent, immediate things on my plate. I was worried about the IRS selling my house. If I had AIDS, I was going through AIDS testing. I had no time to wonder and think about what did he do? What did he say? Where did he go? That was a low priority. I was worried about my own safety.
I wasn't sleeping. I went into permanent menopause. I was physically sick. I lost a lot of my hair. I lost a lot of weight.
I was very defensive, irrationally angry. Like I would get angry at going into the grocery store that they didn't make loaves of bread for one person. I was looking for things to get angry about. Somebody opened the door for me, I'm like, what do they think, I'm weak? They got to open the door for me? I didn't maybe say anything to him, but internally I was very angry all the time.
I got handed a bill for $37,000. He owed for back rent. He'd taken out personal loans. He'd forged my name. I was so broke. I didn't know how I was going to get through the winter. I turned down the heat so much that I had frozen pipes. I started eating less. I conserved my trips to the store. I walked when I could. I sold off everything I could. His car parts, jewelry, furniture, books.
One night, I was by myself, as usual. And it was a peaceful night. I was sitting by the fire at my house. The room was empty. There wasn't a stick of furniture in there because I'd sold it all. And I remember thinking, somehow, some way, I'm going to make this a positive thing. I don't know how. I don't know when. But I do know why. Because if I don't, it'll crumble me.
I didn't want to speak with him. I didn't want anything to do with it. And I went to my attorney about it and he goes, you can't stop it. He's writing it based on public records. And in fact, there's a reason you should cooperate with them. And I go, what's that? And he said, you're going to learn things that you need to know. He's going to have the time. He's going to have the answers.
And if you don't get the answers, you'll always wonder. So I'd suggest you meet with him.
Throughout our marriage, he had women on the side and every single one of them was in need financially. He had offered to put up some in their own apartments. He had offered to pay the tuition of others. He paid the medical bills of some and even visited them in the hospital. There was never a time when he was the person I thought he was.
That's the first time he met her.
I think instead it was a little pang of guilt, but it was short lived.
For one thing, she discovered... He was a very good pool player, and he would challenge people playing pool, which I can't even picture him in a bar, let alone playing pool.
So this was like a guarantee. You know, if I'm going to surround myself with people who need me financially, I have a guarantee of an audience. I have a guarantee of a partner. They're not going to leave me.
He would go over there and read the paper and bring them breakfast. And they'd sit and listen with boredom to his stories.
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