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Jan Jachimowicz

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
370 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

Podcast Appearances

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

A great comparison, at least in my mind, are athletes.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Athletes retire when they're very young.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Many athletes retire when they're in their 30s.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And so retirement is a shock that we can observe and then actually look at for a lot longer time periods.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And there's this recent story that I love by Andrew Luck, who was a quarterback for the Indianapolis Colts for six years, retired, I think he was 29 or 30 when he retired, which is quite young for a football player.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And in the months and years that followed, or the way that he talks about it now, fell into a deep crisis of meaning.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

He was completely unprepared for what he wanted to do next.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

There were really difficult days.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And in large parts because he asked himself, if I'm not a quarterback, then who am I?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And then to start thinking about what am I drawn to?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What else could I do?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

That really opened the door for him.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

He now ultimately, he went back to grad school.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

He is now, I believe, the general manager of the Stanford football program.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

So a very different role than he had before, but still somewhat related to the sport of football that he cared very deeply about.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But I think using that as an excuse to say, what if...

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

We thought more intentionally about what we might want to do after retirement and started experimenting now before we actually make that transition so that when retirement happens, we have something that we can retire to and we can start experimenting with.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Absolutely.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I love Phil Hansen's story because to me it exemplifies that we often have very narrow beliefs about how we want to go about pursuing our passion and that we're not attentive enough to the many different ways in which we could actually pursue our passion.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

So for Phil, he wanted to make pointillism art.