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Jan Jachimowicz

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
370 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

Podcast Appearances

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

That was what he had defined for himself as being his dream.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And so when it didn't work out for him, he fell into a deep dark hole because he said, this is the goal that I had.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

This is the path that it would require for me to reach this goal.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

That path is no longer available for me and therefore I cannot reach this goal.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

when his neurologist said, wait, but you can still make art.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Like, why don't you just do it, but in a different way?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What Phil started experimenting with was to realize maybe there are other things that I could do, and maybe it'll take me to a different goal.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

but perhaps that goal is still meaningful to me.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Perhaps that is still something that I could be passionate about.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

So I think the initial step here that he talks about is that he had to let go of the conceptions that he had about himself.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

The second step was to then embrace, okay,

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What else could I do?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What other things can I pursue even with an uncertain outcome?

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I don't know what I'm ultimately working towards.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And the way that I think about this is to be open to experimenting and in this way developing what it is that you're passionate about.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

It sounds to me like what Phil is doing is finding out why he cares about art so much.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What it is that through art he wants to accomplish.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But I think more broadly, it highlights this distinction between the outcome that I think we become very fixated on.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I want to become X person.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I want to do Y thing versus the process.