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Jan Jachimowicz

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370 total appearances

Appearances Over Time

Podcast Appearances

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

That makes a lot of sense.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

But the students then are very quick to add.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And later on,

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

when I'm in my 40s, in my 50s or 60s, then I'm gonna change and then I'm gonna pursue work that's really meaningful to me.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What they underestimate is that when they are in their 40s, 50s or 60s, who they are has fundamentally changed.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

The people that they have surrounded themselves with for the last 20, 30 years of their career will be very different to who they were perhaps at that moment in time.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Their values will be impacted by that.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Their lifestyle has changed.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And then switching back actually becomes a lot more difficult and challenging.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

So many of the conversations I've had with alums who are in their 50s and 60s who are telling me, I remember when I was in my 20s and I wanted to pursue what I was passionate about and I put it off.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

What they tell me now is I wish I had started earlier.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I wish I had found a way, even if I couldn't do it in my work, I wish I had found a way

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

to continue developing that sense, to find ways to experiment and explore so that when I finally had the time to actually make that the main attention that I could focus on, that I knew what to do and how to do it.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think that we have elevated the pursuit of passion to such a high moral level where we are a good person for pursuing our passion and vice versa.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

We're seen as a morally bad person if we don't pursue our passion.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And I think that that is a wrong expectation to have.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

At best, I think it's unhelpful.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

And at worst, I think it actively makes the pursuit of passion more challenging for the people who enter that.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

Let me explain why.

Hidden Brain
Love 2.0: How to Fix Your Marriage, Part 1

I think that when we tell people you should pursue your passion,