Jason Van Ruler

So we've got these two styles that don't necessarily go together.

How do you bridge that in the conversation so that it does go, so that it works?

So is the strategy then to try to give the other person what they want first so that they're more open to hear what you want to say?

Correct.

What do you find in trying to do what you're talking about?

What are the hazards?

What can and does go wrong?

Well, from listening to you and hearing about the importance of these communication types, there's a real problem when people have different communication types and they're trying to have this conversation on a text because there's so much you can't tell about what somebody means.

So you have to fill in the blanks and make up what you think their intent means or what these words mean.

Right, right, right.

Well, from hearing you talk, it seems there are so many ways that conversations can go sideways because of these different communication types.

It's so important to understand what they are, which one you are, and which one the person you're talking to is.

I've been speaking with Jason Van Ruler.

He is a psychotherapist and author of the book, Discover Your Communication Type, The Five Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships.

And there's a link to that book at Amazon in the show notes.

And Jason, thanks for coming on.

Yes, thank you so much.

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