Jason Wachub

So I feel good about that, but like, but maybe not.

Can we talk about like, if there's a hierarchy, is really safety so foundational to being

being a parent and the development of a child?

And what does that look like?

What is, if I'm a parent listening, how do I assess like, did I do a good job in checking the box of safety here?

How does this show up in a child?

It's such an important point because I think very applicable for grownups and relationships when a relationship, we've all been there.

There's been a fight there.

And there's that moment.

Do I come back and hold that person close or do I just keep on going?

And it's like, I'm done or I'm livid and I can't come down.

And that's when it's that moment of truth where I've certainly had this, like, how much do I really, like, I need to, I need to walk myself back here versus I'm done.

But with a child, I think the memo we have for parents is you're going to make mistakes.

There are going to be blow ups.

Don't beat yourself up over it.

As long as you come back, you say, I'm sorry, I screwed up.

There's a hug, but it can't be a blow up that just continues, that goes off into the sunset.

And there's no acknowledgement of what happened.

Life goes on like that is not OK.

You can screw up, but you got to come back and take ownership.