Jason Wilson

From the men that I've worked with, the greatest fear is their inadequacy. the imposter syndrome, that I'm really not all she thinks I am. Real, she's going to see this one side. What happened during COVID? The divorce rates went through the roof. Because you couldn't be at work for eight hours. There was no time apart.

For me, I was sad when COVID was over because I enjoy being with my wife and my son all day, every day. I didn't have to leave them because by that time I had become a comprehensive man. You wanted to express it all. Yeah, yeah. It was nothing to hide. But if you're with the suits, the bra, you know, the bravado, all this other stuff, that's your aura all day. No one ever sees a sign of weakness.

For me, I was sad when COVID was over because I enjoy being with my wife and my son all day, every day. I didn't have to leave them because by that time I had become a comprehensive man. You wanted to express it all. Yeah, yeah. It was nothing to hide. But if you're with the suits, the bra, you know, the bravado, all this other stuff, that's your aura all day. No one ever sees a sign of weakness.

There is no, you're never concerned. You're stoic 24-7. Then you get married and now she can see. Now she, oh, wait, why are you depressed? I thought we're living our best life. I thought nothing bothers you. What happened? Mm-hmm. So no one wants to be a fraud. But how can you be a fraud when you're authentic? There's nothing to hide anymore.

There is no, you're never concerned. You're stoic 24-7. Then you get married and now she can see. Now she, oh, wait, why are you depressed? I thought we're living our best life. I thought nothing bothers you. What happened? Mm-hmm. So no one wants to be a fraud. But how can you be a fraud when you're authentic? There's nothing to hide anymore.

Do you think most men are authentic before they get married? I don't think most of us are authentic at all right now. Because especially in the era of social media, everything is performance. Highlight reels. They don't see the other side of what goes on inside of a man's mind, his heart, his fears.

Do you think most men are authentic before they get married? I don't think most of us are authentic at all right now. Because especially in the era of social media, everything is performance. Highlight reels. They don't see the other side of what goes on inside of a man's mind, his heart, his fears.

We're doing a better job now, especially thankful to men like you who are showing the real side of what men are going through. I don't think we're there yet. I know with more conversations like this, we're getting there. But no, we're not living authentic. I mean, even look at the videos, the movies, Hollywood, even in hip hop, everything is a facade.

We're doing a better job now, especially thankful to men like you who are showing the real side of what men are going through. I don't think we're there yet. I know with more conversations like this, we're getting there. But no, we're not living authentic. I mean, even look at the videos, the movies, Hollywood, even in hip hop, everything is a facade.

Well, you couldn't just say hip hop, you know, you could say mass media and not all of hip hop, you know, but definitely mass media is playing a major role in how people see themselves in the mirror. Definitely, especially social media. Again, I've had couples where wives had to just...

Well, you couldn't just say hip hop, you know, you could say mass media and not all of hip hop, you know, but definitely mass media is playing a major role in how people see themselves in the mirror. Definitely, especially social media. Again, I've had couples where wives had to just...

get off social media because they would be depressed looking at other couples and they have no idea that that couple was struggling you see and so I couldn't identify you know wouldn't say it's totally hip hop but I mean you can say the same for rock pop You know, the drug abuse in those two genres alone.

get off social media because they would be depressed looking at other couples and they have no idea that that couple was struggling you see and so I couldn't identify you know wouldn't say it's totally hip hop but I mean you can say the same for rock pop You know, the drug abuse in those two genres alone.

And so but it's not all rock. It's not all pop. It's not all hip hop. But, yeah, no, definitely. I wouldn't say that. But mass media has played a major role, especially in the way our children think.

And so but it's not all rock. It's not all pop. It's not all hip hop. But, yeah, no, definitely. I wouldn't say that. But mass media has played a major role, especially in the way our children think.

to reflect on what you've read in the book. So we're unpacking a lot that as men we've been conditioned to suppress. So now at the end of the chapter, I want you to start looking at yourself, the wounds, the things about yourself you didn't like, and then we start affirming ourselves with the statements that I write in the book.

to reflect on what you've read in the book. So we're unpacking a lot that as men we've been conditioned to suppress. So now at the end of the chapter, I want you to start looking at yourself, the wounds, the things about yourself you didn't like, and then we start affirming ourselves with the statements that I write in the book.

And so a lot of times, man, I was talking with a friend of mine actually in Detroit. When he went through the first chapter, he was like, this is hard for me. I didn't realize it was so hard for me to look in the mirror because a lot of us as men, we really don't love ourselves. Look in your eyes. Not how you look, the suit that he wears. I actually share that in the first chapter.

And so a lot of times, man, I was talking with a friend of mine actually in Detroit. When he went through the first chapter, he was like, this is hard for me. I didn't realize it was so hard for me to look in the mirror because a lot of us as men, we really don't love ourselves. Look in your eyes. Not how you look, the suit that he wears. I actually share that in the first chapter.

Like, that's not what we're looking at. Look intently in your eyes for 60 seconds. and then say these statements, you know? And so during that process for a man to stay there for one, he becomes emotional. Even when we have fathers and sons, when they're having a conflict in their relationship, I have them sit in front of each other and without saying a word, communicate through their eyes only.