Jason Wilson

And so but it's not all rock. It's not all pop. It's not all hip hop. But, yeah, no, definitely. I wouldn't say that. But mass media has played a major role, especially in the way our children think.

And so but it's not all rock. It's not all pop. It's not all hip hop. But, yeah, no, definitely. I wouldn't say that. But mass media has played a major role, especially in the way our children think.

to reflect on what you've read in the book. So we're unpacking a lot that as men we've been conditioned to suppress. So now at the end of the chapter, I want you to start looking at yourself, the wounds, the things about yourself you didn't like, and then we start affirming ourselves with the statements that I write in the book.

to reflect on what you've read in the book. So we're unpacking a lot that as men we've been conditioned to suppress. So now at the end of the chapter, I want you to start looking at yourself, the wounds, the things about yourself you didn't like, and then we start affirming ourselves with the statements that I write in the book.

And so a lot of times, man, I was talking with a friend of mine actually in Detroit. When he went through the first chapter, he was like, this is hard for me. I didn't realize it was so hard for me to look in the mirror because a lot of us as men, we really don't love ourselves. Look in your eyes. Not how you look, the suit that he wears. I actually share that in the first chapter.

And so a lot of times, man, I was talking with a friend of mine actually in Detroit. When he went through the first chapter, he was like, this is hard for me. I didn't realize it was so hard for me to look in the mirror because a lot of us as men, we really don't love ourselves. Look in your eyes. Not how you look, the suit that he wears. I actually share that in the first chapter.

Like, that's not what we're looking at. Look intently in your eyes for 60 seconds. and then say these statements, you know? And so during that process for a man to stay there for one, he becomes emotional. Even when we have fathers and sons, when they're having a conflict in their relationship, I have them sit in front of each other and without saying a word, communicate through their eyes only.

Like, that's not what we're looking at. Look intently in your eyes for 60 seconds. and then say these statements, you know? And so during that process for a man to stay there for one, he becomes emotional. Even when we have fathers and sons, when they're having a conflict in their relationship, I have them sit in front of each other and without saying a word, communicate through their eyes only.

Within a matter of seconds, the father starts crying. Yeah. Because now he can convey with his heart what his words won't allow him to say.

Within a matter of seconds, the father starts crying. Yeah. Because now he can convey with his heart what his words won't allow him to say.

And then lean into it. That's really good, man. It works when I work with the young boys in the Cave of Adullam. I'll say, look at me here. I'm here. I'm talking because they want to break contact. Of course. I know. Stare here. Look at me so you can not only hear my words, but see the sincerity in my eyes that I love you. It's just a little tough right now, but we're going to work through this.

And then lean into it. That's really good, man. It works when I work with the young boys in the Cave of Adullam. I'll say, look at me here. I'm here. I'm talking because they want to break contact. Of course. I know. Stare here. Look at me so you can not only hear my words, but see the sincerity in my eyes that I love you. It's just a little tough right now, but we're going to work through this.

Yeah. it breaks them down, man. And even, especially with men and, uh, Nicole and I, my wife, we were laying in bed and she said, Hey, I need to connect with you. And what that means is that we stare into each other's eyes at least for like three minutes.

Yeah. it breaks them down, man. And even, especially with men and, uh, Nicole and I, my wife, we were laying in bed and she said, Hey, I need to connect with you. And what that means is that we stare into each other's eyes at least for like three minutes.

That's a really good question. Um, I'd be transparent with you. With men, it's not an issue because I've been doing it for 20 years, working with boys and men. Well, my wife, she'll often say, why are you looking off? Look at me in my eyes because I have the exercise in there. And I tell men, you may need to break contact, eye contact for a moment because it can get intense. Of course.

That's a really good question. Um, I'd be transparent with you. With men, it's not an issue because I've been doing it for 20 years, working with boys and men. Well, my wife, she'll often say, why are you looking off? Look at me in my eyes because I have the exercise in there. And I tell men, you may need to break contact, eye contact for a moment because it can get intense. Of course.

But reset back. And the reason it is is because just some unresolved hurt years ago. Same thing with her. We're processing and still growing. And then to move past that and say, no, I'm right here. Or I know I may tear up because of how much I love her, and so I'll break off. I don't want to dive deep right now. And so to give her all of my heart... And that's deep for a man.

But reset back. And the reason it is is because just some unresolved hurt years ago. Same thing with her. We're processing and still growing. And then to move past that and say, no, I'm right here. Or I know I may tear up because of how much I love her, and so I'll break off. I don't want to dive deep right now. And so to give her all of my heart... And that's deep for a man.

Like, I'm locking into you like this and I'm staying there. And now, because you were smiling at first, then eventually the smile goes and you're really into deep communication. And then now the heart's open.

Like, I'm locking into you like this and I'm staying there. And now, because you were smiling at first, then eventually the smile goes and you're really into deep communication. And then now the heart's open.