Jason Wilson
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first heard Jan 2025
last heard 25 Dec
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can you deal with that oh are you okay with her seeing that you're depressed some mornings that yeah you two are anxious at times oh yeah you two get scared at times and so that's the the challenging part for men and for me it's just moving past the lies that i've been uh I guess, programmed to believe by the men in my family that being romantic publicly was a sign of weakness.
And so that's one of the attributes that I struggle with exuding.
Again, it's the fear of, I used to say vulnerable, being vulnerable. But I believe that's the wrong word because that means you're open to harm or being killed. Like if a gunman was to come in here now, the news report would say he killed the vulnerable citizens. What we're trying to encourage men to do is be emotionally open or transparent about
And so for me to be transparent and open was actually a gateway to my freedom, man. And my wife would tell you to this day to have a man who can, she can see that is scared, but can move through that fear. Or a man who says, hey, I don't know about this decision, but I'm going to trust God that this is the right way to go.
I'm going to trust the data we have that this is the right decision financially. And we're going to move. For her to see that, whoa, OK, he doesn't know it all, but yet he still walks confidently in that decision. He still has a little fear, but he doesn't succumb to it. Now you can be more authentic. And that's really what men want. They're dying to just be treated as humans.
Can I just share my fear without you condemning me as being weak?
From the men that I've worked with, the greatest fear is their inadequacy. the imposter syndrome, that I'm really not all she thinks I am. Real, she's going to see this one side. What happened during COVID? The divorce rates went through the roof. Because you couldn't be at work for eight hours. There was no time apart.
For me, I was sad when COVID was over because I enjoy being with my wife and my son all day, every day. I didn't have to leave them because by that time I had become a comprehensive man. You wanted to express it all. Yeah, yeah. It was nothing to hide. But if you're with the suits, the bra, you know, the bravado, all this other stuff, that's your aura all day. No one ever sees a sign of weakness.
There is no, you're never concerned. You're stoic 24-7. Then you get married and now she can see. Now she, oh, wait, why are you depressed? I thought we're living our best life. I thought nothing bothers you. What happened? Mm-hmm. So no one wants to be a fraud. But how can you be a fraud when you're authentic? There's nothing to hide anymore.
Do you think most men are authentic before they get married? I don't think most of us are authentic at all right now. Because especially in the era of social media, everything is performance. Highlight reels. They don't see the other side of what goes on inside of a man's mind, his heart, his fears.
We're doing a better job now, especially thankful to men like you who are showing the real side of what men are going through. I don't think we're there yet. I know with more conversations like this, we're getting there. But no, we're not living authentic. I mean, even look at the videos, the movies, Hollywood, even in hip hop, everything is a facade.
Well, you couldn't just say hip hop, you know, you could say mass media and not all of hip hop, you know, but definitely mass media is playing a major role in how people see themselves in the mirror. Definitely, especially social media. Again, I've had couples where wives had to just...
get off social media because they would be depressed looking at other couples and they have no idea that that couple was struggling you see and so I couldn't identify you know wouldn't say it's totally hip hop but I mean you can say the same for rock pop You know, the drug abuse in those two genres alone.
And so but it's not all rock. It's not all pop. It's not all hip hop. But, yeah, no, definitely. I wouldn't say that. But mass media has played a major role, especially in the way our children think.
to reflect on what you've read in the book. So we're unpacking a lot that as men we've been conditioned to suppress. So now at the end of the chapter, I want you to start looking at yourself, the wounds, the things about yourself you didn't like, and then we start affirming ourselves with the statements that I write in the book.
And so a lot of times, man, I was talking with a friend of mine actually in Detroit. When he went through the first chapter, he was like, this is hard for me. I didn't realize it was so hard for me to look in the mirror because a lot of us as men, we really don't love ourselves. Look in your eyes. Not how you look, the suit that he wears. I actually share that in the first chapter.
Like, that's not what we're looking at. Look intently in your eyes for 60 seconds. and then say these statements, you know? And so during that process for a man to stay there for one, he becomes emotional. Even when we have fathers and sons, when they're having a conflict in their relationship, I have them sit in front of each other and without saying a word, communicate through their eyes only.
Within a matter of seconds, the father starts crying. Yeah. Because now he can convey with his heart what his words won't allow him to say.
And then lean into it. That's really good, man. It works when I work with the young boys in the Cave of Adullam. I'll say, look at me here. I'm here. I'm talking because they want to break contact. Of course. I know. Stare here. Look at me so you can not only hear my words, but see the sincerity in my eyes that I love you. It's just a little tough right now, but we're going to work through this.
Yeah. it breaks them down, man. And even, especially with men and, uh, Nicole and I, my wife, we were laying in bed and she said, Hey, I need to connect with you. And what that means is that we stare into each other's eyes at least for like three minutes.
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